Resume Virtues vs. Eulogy Virtues: What Truly Matters?

In today’s world, success is often measured by external achievements—wealth, job titles, accolades, and social status. From a young age, we’re encouraged to build impressive résumés, climb career ladders, and accumulate accomplishments that set us apart. These are what David Brooks, in his book The Road to Character, calls résumé virtues—the skills and achievements that make us marketable.

But when our time comes to an end, will people remember us for the promotions we earned or the kind of person we were? That’s where eulogy virtues come in—the qualities that define our character, such as kindness, integrity, humility, and courage.

The Problem with Resume Virtues

Society rewards success. We admire those who are ambitious, hardworking, and accomplished. And while there’s nothing wrong with striving for success, it becomes a problem when résumé virtues are prioritized at the expense of eulogy virtues.

We’ve all seen it—people so focused on chasing titles and financial success that they neglect their relationships, compromise their values, or lose sight of what truly matters. In the pursuit of being someone, they forget how to be someone worth remembering.

The Power of Eulogy Virtues

Eulogy virtues are the qualities people will remember long after we’re gone. They are about who we are, not just what we do. Consider the difference:

• Résumé Virtue: "She was the CEO of a Fortune 500 company."
  
  

• Eulogy Virtue: "She always made time for others and treated everyone with kindness."
  
  

• Résumé Virtue: "He built a multimillion-dollar business."
  
  

• Eulogy Virtue: "He was a loyal friend who always lifted others up."
  
  

True fulfillment doesn’t come from titles or bank accounts—it comes from living a life of purpose, connection, and integrity.

Striking a Balance

While résumé virtues help us build careers, eulogy virtues shape our legacy. The goal isn’t to reject success, but to ensure that success is built on a foundation of strong character. Here are some ideas:

✅ Practice Gratitude & Humility – Success is fleeting, but a grateful heart leaves a lasting impact.
✅ Prioritize Relationships – Invest time in people, not just in work. Meaningful connections matter more than any job title.
✅ Lead with Kindness – Small acts of kindness have a ripple effect that extends far beyond our lifetimes.
✅ Live with Integrity – Do what’s right, even when no one is watching. Character is built in the unseen moments.
✅ Define Your Own Success – True success isn’t measured by money or fame, but by the love, respect, and positive influence we leave behind.

What Will Be Said at Your Eulogy?

At the end of the day, no one’s eulogy focuses on how many hours they worked, how much money they made, or how many followers they had. Instead, people remember how we made them feel, how we lifted others up, and the kind of person we were.

So ask yourself: Are you only building your résumé, or are you also building a legacy? The choice is yours—and it starts today.

Five Years Since Lockdown: How Far We’ve Come & Where Are You Headed

 Five years ago, the world stood still. Schools closed, businesses shut down, and our daily routines were turned upside down. We faced uncertainty, isolation, and challenges we never imagined. Yet, here we are—five years later—stronger, wiser, and moving forward.

Look How Far We’ve Come

The past five years have been a journey of resilience and growth. We adapted, we learned, and we found new ways to connect. We saw communities come together, families redefine what truly matters, and individuals discover new passions and strengths. Life may not look exactly like it did before, but in many ways, we’ve come out of this chapter with a deeper appreciation for the simple things—health, relationships, and the ability to embrace change.

Where Will You Be in Five More Years?

Now, it’s time to look ahead. Five years from now, where do you see yourself? What dreams do you want to chase? What goals have been sitting on the back burner, waiting for the right moment? The truth is, time moves forward whether we’re ready or not. The question is: Are you moving forward with it?

What Do You Need to Do to Get There?

Big goals don’t happen overnight—they happen with small, consistent and persistent steps. Here are some ways to start shaping your next five years:

✅ Set Clear Goals – Define where you want to be and write it down. Clarity is the first step toward action.
✅ Take Small, Daily Steps – Progress doesn’t have to be dramatic. Even small habits—reading for 10 minutes a day, making one new connection a month, or saving a little extra—can lead to big results.
✅ Embrace Change – The past five years proved that change is inevitable. Instead of fearing it, use it as an opportunity to grow.
✅ Invest in Yourself – Whether it’s learning a new skill, prioritizing your health, or focusing on personal growth, your future self will thank you.
✅ Surround Yourself with the Right People – Growth happens when you’re supported and challenged. Find people who inspire and encourage you.

The Next Five Years Start Now

Five years ago, we were in lockdown, uncertain about the future. Today, we have the power to shape what comes next. Where will you be in 2030? The journey starts with the choices you make today.

So, what’s your next step?